My Blog
From time to time I write articles covering key areas of interest in my work, some of which are linked below. You might find them helpful if you are looking for more information on these topics or are experiencing any of these issues.
Infertility And Identity, When Starting A Family Is Not Straightforward
Infertility is not only a medical experience. It can touch every part of life, from relationships to self-image and future plans. This blog explores the emotional impact of infertility and how therapy can offer a compassionate space to process what you are going through. The Monthly Cycle Of Hope And Disappointment Trying to conceive when it is not happening easily often involves a repeating cycle of hope and loss. Each…
Finding Your Feet After Separation Or Divorce
The end of a relationship is rarely just one event. It can bring practical changes, emotional upheaval and deeper questions about identity. This blog looks at the complexity of separation and divorce and how therapy can offer steadiness as you navigate this transition. More Than A Legal Process While paperwork and practical arrangements are important, separation and divorce also involve an emotional process that unfolds over time. You may experience…
Feeling Lonely In A Busy World
You might have a full calendar, colleagues you get on with and family around you, yet still feel a sense of loneliness. This can be confusing, and people often judge themselves for it. Thoughts like “I should be grateful” or “there is nothing wrong, why do I feel like this?” can make the experience even harder. Loneliness can be about not feeling fully seen or understood. Perhaps you have learned…
Managing Family Dynamics At Christmas And Beyond
You may notice that, as soon as you enter your family home, you slip back into an old version of yourself. The responsible one, the peacekeeper, the quiet one or the one who always lightens the mood. These roles may have developed for good reasons when you were younger. As an adult, however, they can feel restrictive. Perhaps you feel pressure to keep everyone happy, even when you are exhausted.…
Making Sense of Ambiguous Loss
Not all losses are visible or final. Sometimes we grieve something that has changed but not fully disappeared, such as a relationship that ended without closure, a loved one with declining health, or even a role in life that is no longer yours. Other times it can be the loss of a hoped for future or even losing your sense of who you are. This is called ambiguous loss. It…
Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships
From our earliest days, the way we bonded with parents and caregivers shaped how we learned to connect with others. These patterns, known as attachment styles, can have a profound influence on our adult relationships. You may notice yourself clinging to closeness, keeping distance, or feeling torn between the two. These are ways you learned to protect yourself in relationships. In therapy, making sense of these patterns can be the…
Understanding Grief: There’s No One Way Through It
Grief is something we all meet, in one form or another, during the course of our lives. It may arrive after the death of someone close, or come quietly in the background of an ending, a relationship, a job, a future we had imagined. Sometimes grief is obvious. Other times, it’s a slow, steady ache that sits just under the surface of things. We live in a world that often…
When Life Takes a Different Path: Coming to Terms with Not Having Children
As a psychotherapist based in Ireland, I often work with clients facing the deep, personal journey of coming to terms with not having children. For some, this was a conscious decision, for others, it was the outcome of circumstances beyond their control. No matter the route, the emotional landscape is often layered with grief, identity questions, and a need for understanding. In Irish society, the expectation of parenthood runs deep.…
Attachment Styles: Unlocking the Emotional Blueprints of Your Relationships
As a psychotherapist based in Dublin, I often meet clients who are trying to make sense of challenging dynamics in their relationships, whether romantic, family-based, or even in work settings. What might seem like a collection of unrelated issues often turns out to be linked by a deeper, recurring theme: their attachment style. Understanding your attachment style isn’t about labelling yourself. It’s about exploring the emotional templates formed in childhood…
